Sometimes when we get angry or frustrated, we fixate on what’s bothering us. We run that negative commentary in our heads about how annoyed we are, how angry people make us, how frustrating something is.
And we stay fixated on it.
Our problems and annoyances seem to grow, and our anger grows with them.
Sometimes, even when we ‘move on’, minutes or days later something else bothers us, and we seem to pick up right where we left off.
When we fixate on the negative, it feels like we plant a seed on our shoulders. Anger sprouts and just keeps growing, getting heavier and heavier and weighing us down to the point where we feel like we’ll snap.
It can be a struggle to not give in to anger and negativity. But there are some things we can do to help shake the negativity and stay positive.
- Close our eyes and take deep breaths. Try meditating if you have the time.
- Count our blessings. We have a lot to be thankful for. Focus on the positive instead of the negative.
- Observe our negative thoughts/feelings and let them pass. Don’t judge them or their cause. Let it go.
- Picture something calming. What relaxes you? A cup of hot tea? A towering mountain?
- Envision our hopes for the future.
- Eat a healthy snack. Not only can a snack give us extra energy, but it could give us a little time to ourselves.
- Solitude. Time alone is best when quiet, at least for me. Take a break from the screaming kids and spend some peaceful, quiet time alone.
- Get some fresh air. Fresh air is always good for the mind and body.
- Gaze up at the sky. Whether we see clouds, stars, or the big blue, the sky is a good reminder that the world is too vast and beautiful to get held down by anger.
- Let go of judgement. Let’s put ourselves in others’ shoes and have compassion.
- Do something nice for someone. Kindness begets kindness, and joy begets joy.
Let’s remember stay positive, and act in kindness instead of anger.
Anger can grow on us, but only if we let it.
Much Peace and Keep Roamin’