Old Home | Negative Self-Talk

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When we find ourselves learning something new, heading in a different direction, or even just entertaining the idea of doing so, it’s incredibly easy to start berating ourselves.  It can be surprising how cruel we can be, especially regarding goals and dreams.

We would never tell a friend they’ll never be good enough to do this, or never have enough money to do that.  We’d especially never tell them that they simply don’t deserve it.  But we’re so quick to say these exact things to ourselves.

We tell ourselves we’re not good enough and never would be, that we have no right to live a life like that, that we’d never have the money, and that we shouldn’t bother.

Dreams and even simple goals can be derailed easily enough without being unnecessarily cruel ourselves.  So let’s ignore the self criticism, counter it with positive facts and affirmations, remember that anything is possible, and that we definitely deserve a life we love.

Much Peace and Keep Roamin’

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Boarded Up Farmhouse

Self-Esteem

Intention | Self Esteem

Self-esteem can be too easy to struggle with.  We may praise others generously, but when our attention comes back to ourselves, we count ourselves short.  We don’t easily accept praise, from others or ourselves.

If we achieve something amazing, it was just luck.  If someone tries to become our friend, we ask ourselves why.  When offered praise, we wave it off at the person being too kind.  When wondering if those around us enjoy our company, we ask ourselves,”Why would they?” If we’re offered a new position at work, surely it’s because we’re screwing up our current job. We couldn’t possibly be getting promoted because our bosses believe in us and our work, could we?

It’s too easy to fall into the trap of labeling ourselves as ‘nobodies’, and seeing ourselves as less than everyone else.

As someone I met at work recently advised: When someone tells you you’re awesome, say,”Yes, I am.”

Let’s catch ourselves when we’re putting ourselves down, and counter it with something positive that we know to be true.  Let’s remember that we have something to offer, that we have strengths, and that, yeah, we are pretty awesome.

Let’s not wave people off.  Let’s start seeing and recognizing our own worth.  You’re awesome!

 

Much Peace and Keep Roamin’

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Remember the Positive

Calm

Tensions start to run high, patience begins to stretch thin, and life keeps going at the same rate.  Technically true, but it doesn’t always feel that way.

Letting ourselves be consumed by anger and running negative monologues through our heads doesn’t make us feel any better, and it certainly doesn’t help pass the time.

When we feel pressure building, anger mounting, and blood boiling, let’s remember the positive.

Let’s lose ourselves in what brings us peace, remember the positive, and hope for the future.

Much Peace and Keep Roamin’

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Perspective

Cloud Perspective

When we find ourselves sinking in negative thoughts and feelings, it’s great to get some perspective.

The most helpful and calming thing for me is to gaze at the sky, especially around sunset.  Seeing the beautiful clouds and seamless shades of the sky definitely give a reminder of how big the world is, and how small our problems are in comparison.

What helps give you perspective?

Much Peace and Keep Roamin’

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Anger Grows on You

Anger Grows on You

Sometimes when we get angry or frustrated, we fixate on what’s bothering us.  We run that negative commentary in our heads about how annoyed we are, how angry people make us, how frustrating something is.

And we stay fixated on it.

Our problems and annoyances seem to grow, and our anger grows with them.

Sometimes, even when we ‘move on’, minutes or days later something else bothers us, and we seem to pick up right where we left off.

When we fixate on the negative, it feels like we plant a seed on our shoulders.  Anger sprouts and just keeps growing, getting heavier and heavier and weighing us down to the point where we feel like we’ll snap.

It can be a struggle to not give in to anger and negativity.  But there are some things we can do to help shake the negativity and stay positive.

  • Close our eyes and take deep breaths.  Try meditating if you have the time.
  • Count our blessings.  We have a lot to be thankful for.  Focus on the positive instead of the negative.
  • Laugh.
  • Smile.
  • Observe our negative thoughts/feelings and let them pass.  Don’t judge them or their cause.  Let it go.
  • Picture something calming.  What relaxes you?  A cup of hot tea?  A towering mountain?
  • Envision our hopes for the future.
  • Eat a healthy snack.  Not only can a snack give us extra energy, but it could give us a little time to ourselves.
  • Solitude.  Time alone is best when quiet, at least for me.  Take a break from the screaming kids and spend some peaceful, quiet time alone.
  • Get some fresh air.  Fresh air is always good for the mind and body.
  • Gaze up at the sky.  Whether we see clouds, stars, or the big blue, the sky is a good reminder that the world is too vast and beautiful to get held down by anger.
  • Let go of judgement.  Let’s put ourselves in others’ shoes and have compassion.
  • Do something nice for someone.  Kindness begets kindness, and joy begets joy.

Let’s remember stay positive, and act in kindness instead of anger.

Anger can grow on us, but only if we let it.

Much Peace and Keep Roamin’